Attributed (correctly or not, who knows?) to Albert Einstein is one of the most famous of all relationship quotes, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.”

I get it, I’m probably going to be torn to shreds for this but I often wonder, again, (correctly or not, who knows?) if the primary cause of Escalating Demands is primal dominance instinct. The Dominance instinct basically displays itself as Push, Push, Push. The leader is the Pack, in most species is the leader that pushes the most, the most often, the hardest or the first. I’m no world behavioural or psychology expert but I tend to be at least pretty good at observation.

I’ve both observed and read from others who’ve observed, similar instincts aren’t just common, the ARE the animal world. Let’s look a a few typical examples;

Dogs. The Pack leader will be first through a doorway, the first to sit on the “Top step”, control and share food supply, subordinates must move out of the leader’s way, The alpha will also care for subordinates. They will control all interactions with subordinates. Contrary to popular belief, the pack leader often won’t be the strongest dog but the strongest willed.

Horses. Generally, herd leaders are almost universally, the most dominant mare. Again, consistently leading by continues and regular assertiveness, determination to lead the herd to resources or safe grounds. These behaviors attain them higher rank in the herd. Pushing is done with a mix of dominance behaviours. Any horse may commence group movement, higher ranked horses or the lead mare will usually control whether movement continues. Initial movement often appears to be Fight or Flight initiation. Stallions generally protect but not lead. They rarely exercise the continuity of dominance behaviours. A common sign of leadership dominance when riding domesticated horses, animals wanting to be herd leader will try to lead in group rides. This occurs more so if the particular horse doesn’t respect the rider.

Birds: Dominant individuals will usually select higher perches to put themselves in the best position to detect and avoid predators, as well as to display their dominance. They will do this generally by continuously pushy behaviour, however some species will outright fight.

African elephant: Leadership is very often about ongoing decision making rather than aggression. Elephants live long lives, and matriarchs survive across many generations. This gives them more experience to lead their herd to sources of food and water.

Bonobo or Pygmy chimpanzee: A very close human relative. Nearly, if not always, females lead, controlling conflicts with either aggression or sex. They usually reduce conflict by distracting or diverting the attention of aggravated animals with genital stimulation. They use physical touch on an agitated individual’s genitals. Observers aren’t certain if this is because they lead by affection or manipulation however, they are known to inflict serious injuries on males when required to keep control.

In most cases, the pack/herd/pride leadership is not decided by who fights the best but who is demanding, pushy and making and enforcing the most “Day to Day” decisions.

Yeah, I get it. This I will probably be discredited as a moron, argued to be sexist, misogynistic, hateful, derogatory, (you know all those words) for comparing humans to the animal kingdom. That’s just what Feminists call it if a male says pretty much anything relating to gender differences they don’t like. In the famous words of Rhett Butler, “Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn”.

Many of the animal behaviours I’ve learned about, I understand from Female’s observation and conclusion. These constructive, investigative, independent minded females’ opinions matter a whole lot more to me than Huge packs of internet based Troll Feminism bully gangs.

Human females appear to be exercising this common instinct. When they first decide a man is of genuine interest, their first serious indicator is starting to feminise HIS pad. Heaven help him if he’s stupid enough to try to masculinise hers. I’ve tried it as an experiment. You should see the reactions. PRICELESS!

The next thing she’ll do is want to dispose of his possessions to substitute things of their “Mutual choice”. Again, does he have any input to the mutual thing – DREAM ON!

Cohabitation occurs: By then, new rules just keep appearing, one after the other starting with how often floors need sweeping, where shoes have to be stored to the position of the Goddamned toilet seat.

Do any of these new rules really matter? Well, that depends on two things. How hard she buys into the feminist crap that it’s about respecting them and whether she can coerce you into compliance with Sex Deprivation or Guilt Inducement, clear reasoning, persistent subtle pushing or coercion. Many psychologists and relationship experts see them as “testing” the man’s strength and resolve. What is so amusing once you just stand back and watch is that any man who tries these behaviours is (you guessed it) overpowering, dominating, aggressive, yadah, yadah, yadah. Clearly, I don’t agree with physicality or aggression but men should no longer accept this behaviour if we’re living with genuine EQUALITY. If you like your Wagon Wheel or Top Gear Coffee Table, keep it. Grow a pair. There may even be respect for it!

Now, how do these changes happen? Usually, subtle, ongoing pressure. This bed hurts my back, This bed is too hard to make, this kitchen is a bad layout. I get tired oir sore because of XXXXXX, This car can’t carry enough shopping (or if it can, uses too much fuel). New rules will start with suggestion conversation such as “I was just thinking……………….” or “Can you imagine………………..” .

These new rules and changes are often, just the warm up because within just a few short years, his dream car will be sold, his house will be gone, most of his photos or paintings will be “Donated” and you might see a few token items of his left. Ironically. in many cases, when men don’t put up sufficient resistance they become regarded as weak and respect is lost. Alternately, if these rules and changes are fought too hard, the man will be seen as either too hard to get along with or some related set of emotions . Again, what I find really funny is asks how many times percentage wise, we’ve seen the same behaviour where the male does this and the female stick around? I’d also love to hear in the comments, what do YOU you call it when a male takes charge of a female’s home, finances or assets?

So what do YOU think? When a female takes charge. Is this behaviour coercion or not?

Why do men generally put up with it?

Inherently, it’s my observation, MOST Men just want to care for, look after and protect their lady. Most men just want to make their lady happy. I know that used to be my thinking. What do YOU think?

If a man even attempts this behaviour, is it Domestic Violence by Coercion? Our Radical Feminist steered government seem to have bought into that narrative. Don’t believe me or agree? Look at Laugh Time?

Am I saying men never use coercive or manipulative behaviours? NO, of course not. In fact, I have seen it (albeit usually in smaller quantities and much less often). There’s a real world out there. People who live in glass houses, really shouldn’t throw stones!